Therapy should be a safe place to see what is surfacing and process it in manageable bites. What often appears as inappropriate or harmful thoughts and behaviors are indicators of real underlying pain that have never been processed safely. A client in her 60's once asked me, "do all deep wounds need processed?" It's my experience that they do. Another client tearfully shared for the first time of a shameful sexual experience as a teenager that occurred over 50 years ago. Without sharing these hurtful experiences we cannot clearly see the parts of ourselves that need the most compassion.